Friday, October 30, 2009
leadership
Sunday, October 25, 2009
love any race black or white
Love is what we are born with. Fear is what we learn. The spiritual journey is the unlearning of fear and prejudices and the acceptance of love back in our hearts. Love is the essential reality and our purpose on earth. To be consciously aware of it and to experience love in ourselves and others, is the meaning of life. Meaning does not lie in things lies in us..so lets love each other even if they is difference race and tribe...because god is the one who showed us love first.
friendships
A friend is someone with whom we can relax and just hang out, have fun and
share our innermost thoughts--deep dark secrets, lofty and noble goals, or
our hopes, joys, and fears. A good friend allows you a safe space to share
your deepest thoughts and needs--without worry of being judged, criticized
or made to feel silly for feeling the way you do. Friends cheer each other on,
laugh and cry together, and just plain commiserate and listen to each other.
That's why friends are friends....when u are down they should be there for u. ROY CHIKUMBI
ConFlict sTylEs
Competing: I win, You lose.
The competitive style involves great concern for your own needs and desires and little for those of others.
Avoiding: I lose, You lose
Conflict avoiders are relatively unconcerned with their own or with their opponents' needs or desires.
Accommodating: I lose, You win
In accommodating you sacrifice your own needs for the needs of the other person.
Collaborating: I win, You win
In collaborating you address both your own and the other person's needs.
Compromising: I win and lose, You win and lose
The compromising style is in the middle. There's some concern for your own needs and some concern for the other's needs.
posted by,
Liew Li Hui
aTtraCtIoN
It's easily appreciated that people like physically attractive people more than they like physically unattractive poeple.
Generally, people like those who are similar to them in nationality, race, ability, physical characteristics, intelligence, and attitudes. Sometimes people are attracted to their opposites in a pattern called complementarity.
Sunday, October 18, 2009
team work!!!
written by
Dharshinie Vimalanathan
VAGUE
For example, it is a red car, it is a sports car, the car is manufactured by Ferrari, the type of the car is Ferrari Enzo, the car itself cost a million dollars. Can you see that I started in a very vaguely manner? And I continued to describe with more detail towards the end.
Communication is a form of art??
In my opinion i think it is. WHY?? well basically along the years people have found new ways to communicate within each other verbally and non-verbally. It is very interesting to know how sometimes people come up with various ways and sign languages that help them communicate. Why do i agree that communication is a form of art? MAny people express their feelings through their art paintings and art is a very subjective thing it comes in many forms that is why i agrees to say that communication is a form of art. For example. coming up with sign languages to communicate among each other is an art piece of communication that help to people relate to each other. Art is the same thing it helps someone express their feelings to the world. That is why i think it is very important how we express our feelings to other people and expressing is one thing wether the person understands it is another...
written by
Dharshinie Vimalanathan
Saturday, October 17, 2009
WAR
How can one achieve peace and harmony? Have you ever wondered why and how did the war in the United States of America and Iraq erupted? Was it just a misunderstanding or did they agree to not agree with each other? The truth is out there for you to find out.
If we expect to have peace, then we should start by trying to achieve peace as an individual, a family, a society and finally the whole country. When this is done, automatically the country will gain peace and harmony.
Although peace is not easy to attain and attitudes like greed and selfishness always starts a war, it is said and proved to be possible. A war usually starts when some are not satisfied with what they have, they just wants to grab others properties. So, as the LITE becomes drunk with greed in grabbing a part of our beautiful Motherland, this unfortunate war started.
Written by : Nur Afifah Bt Noor Azlan
Emoticons
I'm sure we all are familiar with it.
for example, :-) means smile and :-( means sad.
all these emoticons help you to display emotions when you are chatting online with friends.
finally, i wish Mr. Murali "Happy Deepavali" and my groupmates "good luck" for the coming exam. (^.^)
posted by Liew Li Hui ^^
Meanings of colorzz..
for example, RED can signifies as good luck but also can signifies anger and danger.
it is just a matter of view.
it depends on how you feel about it.
YELLOW signifies wealth and authority but sometimes it signifies envy and jealous.
posted by Liew Li Hui ^^
Friday, October 16, 2009
Greetings and Wishes
Also..
Sunday, October 11, 2009
Cultural context of conflicts
Blog Entry 002 for week 7.
The cultural context of conflicts; there are 2 types which are cultural differences and gender difference respectively. Culturally, conflicts centres on the cause that people fight for and the right ways of handling the conflict. This is further divided in to 2 orientation; collectivist and individualist. Collectivist members tend to avoid conflict to save face.
Example,
In a collectionist culture, it is forbidden to correct another person bluntly as face saving is highly practised. Thus, conflict might arise should such behaviour been shown for it is considered rude culturally.
Posted by Wan Hani Arifah B0802457
Conflicts
Blog Entry 001 week 7
Conflicts are confrontations that is acknowledged by both sides of arguing parties. Conflicts can give good advantage such as addressing important issues and subsequently giving strength to relationship when both parties involved are satisfied.
Example
A friend is annoyed by a particular behaviour of her roommate thus, take charge to confront the roommate by explaining, listening and reasoning. As a result, bugging issues are solved.
Posted by Wan Hani Arifah B0802457
Greatest love
Blog Entry 002 week 6
Generally, there are many kind of love such as eros (love for beautiful physical appearance), ludic (love for fun) storge (the calm/ peaceful love) pragma ( practical love) manic (obsessive love) and agapic love ( selfless love).
Agapic love is the greatest love of all due to its selfless nature. Agapic love could be seen between a mother and her baby, activists and good people.
Posted by Wan Hani Arifah B0802457
Types of interpersonal relationship; Friendship
Blog Entry 001 week 6
One of the most prominent types of interpersonal relationship is friendship. It is divided into three which is friendship of reciprocity, receptivity and association.
Friendship of reciprocity is a 100% mutual relationship. In other words, both parties involved in this kind of relationship give and take equally.
Example
When a best friend puts lots of efforts of finding the best gift for her best friend wedding, the same is done onto her by her best friend when she gets married.
Friendship of receptivity is a relationship with unequal input and output from both sides, such as one party benefits more than the other. Nevertheless, both still profit from this kind of relationship for one side has high capacity to receive and the other, high capacity to give. In simpler words, this kind of relationship comes about when one party requires certain needs and the other party could accommodate the need due to his/her expertise.
Example
A weak student gets tutorial from a good student. The weak student a benefit by gaining knowledge and the good student gets to strengthens his/her memory by teaching someone else what one already knows.
Friendship of association is a temporary relationship@ surface level relationship. In majority, this kind of relationship is practical based relationship. It does not involve much emotions compared to the other two. This type of relationship has minimal give and take in all aspects.
Examples of friendships of association could be seen between a new employee with her new boss.
Posted by Wan Hani Arifah B0802457
a smile that speaks a 1000 words
i know this one person whom no matter what problem she faces she puts a smile on her face. The funny thing is that she does it so well that u can barely notice that she is sad about anything unless you are like really close to her. So much so when people look at her they think that she's the happiest person on earth..but actually if your close to her you will kow the problems that she goes through are just the hardest things she has to live with just by putting a smile on her face.
by Dharshinie Vimalanathan
relationships is like playing soccer
Pride & Prejudice
Have you seen or heard about Pride & Prejudice, a book written by Jane Austen? The best-selling book was then made into a movie played by Keira Knightley and was released in 2006.
Mr. Bennet is an English gentleman living in Hertfordshire with his overbearing wife. The Bennet’s 5 daughters include the beautiful Jane, the clever Elizabeth, the bookish Mary, the immature Kitty and the wild Lydia. These girls have been raised by their mother with one purpose in life: finding a husband.
The story then focuses on Elizabeth and Mr. Darcy. When the wealthy bachelor Mr. Bingley and his best friend Mr. Darcy arrive in town to spend the summer in a mansion nearby their property, the shy and beautiful Jane falls in love for Mr. Bingley, but Elizabeth finds Mr. Darcy a snobbish and a proud man, and she swears to loathe him forever.
This is a good example of people rushing to make assumptions, where Elizabeth jumps to conclusion assuming that Mr. Darcy is a proud man without truly knowing him. She refuses to get to know him better and know him as a person, instead she judged him based on her first impression of him.
Towards the end of the story, Elizabeth realised that she has mistakenly assume Mr. Darcy. He turns out to be the total opposite to what she thought he would be. She ends up falling for him, and was asked for her hand in marriage by Mr. Darcy himself.
Written by : Nur Afifah Bt Noor Azlan
money plays a role in relationship
Take A Good Look
When people are conversing, they tend to make facial expressions that they don’t even realise. Facial expressions are sometimes made without their conscious mind, it comes naturally. Facial expressions are shown without needing to say anything because it is a form of nonverbal communication.
When people sense some kind of a smell that they like or despise their positions of the muscles of the face will start to change. We can tell so much by only looking at one’s face. It can be a lot of meanings to what they are expressing on their face. For instance, if a person is feeling sad, happy, annoyed or doubt, we can predict their emotion by just looking at their face.
Written by : Nur Afifah Bt Noor Azlan
Workplace relationship
One of my friends is having workplace romance. At the beginning, they are just friend. They work together and always help each other. After 4 years being such a close friend, they fell in love with each other. Both of them realized that efficiency and effectiveness of the work is important in this case. Hence, they decided that they will only meet after work. In the office, they are just like normal friend and perform their own task.
This kind of relationship didn’t affect their work but help them a lot in the working place or outside the office. They can talk about their work happily and share their own experiences. At the end, they get married and live a happy life.
Is it all workplace romances are bad? Not necessary. It is only depends on how you handle it. As mentioned above, if you can manage it well, nobody will disagree with it, just like my friend.
Posted by Liew Li Hui
Love
Our mothers give birth to us. Do you know how hard for your mom to born a baby? They don’t even care about the risk while in the process of delivering a baby. If something goes wrong, they may suffer from unnecessary consequences. Can you imagine how much courage they should have? Our father, he needs to work hard to ensure the family members can live a better life. He also acts as our role model, teach us a lot of things. Love from our parents is selfless. What they care is their children but not themselves. They always place their son or daughter in the first place. Can you have this kind of love towards your parents?
If you are with your parents now, don’t be shy to give them a big warm hug. If you are away from them, give them a call. Trust me, I’m sure that they will be very happy even just a simple call.
Posted by Liew Li Hui
Sunday, October 4, 2009
Facial management
Blog Entry 002 week 5
Facial management is one of the most important forms of nonverbal self expression. Mainly it is used to conceal or highlight ones emotion to the listener. There are five types of it which are to intensify, deintensify, neutralize, mask and simulate. All five are utilised to please people, save face of others, to protect others feelings, to defend ego and to empathise. A simple example of masking is as below.
Situation
A mother in hunger manage to facially express she is full and give all scarce food left to her child at the sight of her child’s insatiable hunger.
Posted by Wan Hani Arifah B0802457
Nonverbal gives accent to verbal messages
Blog Entry 001 week 5
There are many crucial functions of nonverbal messages. One of it is to give accent to verbal messages. While messages are conveyed verbally, nonverbal could be used to add stress or accentuate verbal messages. This could be done via physical movement, voice volume and intonation, or by facial expression. This particular function nonverbal message is important to reduce message ambiguity or abstraction; for emotion plays major role in determining the level of seriousness of a verbal message.
Example
A father when giving a serious warning regarding safety to his child should show nonverbal accent of authority so that a child would understand that his father is not telling him a joke and pay attention closely.
Posted by Wan Hani Arifah B0802457
Messages Symbolize Parts of Reality
Blog Entry 002 week 4
It is important to note that words and sentences are just representation of reality as in objects, people and events. Nevertheless, when a person acts as if words and sentences represent reality, this might demonstrate that the individual is intensional oriented if not acting with allness attitude. Intensional orientation is putting labels or schema on people, objects and events before checking first if the labels attached is indeed true. Extensional orientation is the opposite; people who seek evidence first then make a schema out of the acquired evidence. Allness thinking is putting things in categories without sufficient knowledge @ jumping into conclusion by drawing schema on the unknown things. Example is as shown below.
Situation
An elder sister tells everyone that her baby sister is a brat. Those who believe the elder sister before getting to know the baby sister is subjected to intensional orientation. The baby sister after several mistreatment by the strangers introduced by the elder sister, starts to conclude that all strangers are harmful, is showing a form of allness thinking. This situation could be overcome by applying extensional oriented approach.
Posted by Wan Hani Arifah B0802457
Messages Can Obscure Distinctions
Blog Entry 001 week 4
One of the way messages can obscure distinctions is by polarization. Polarization is the tendency of putting things into either end of a bell curve @ extremities. It is in a way a form of dualism; right or wrong / yes or no. An example is as shown below.
Situation
A materialistic person who views the world to consist of only either a person successful (rich) or failure (poor) people is demonstrating polarization.
Posted by Wan Hani Arifah B0802457
understand freindship
impressions
nOn-veRbaL coMmunIcaTioN
In our daily life, there are many kinds of communication between you and me. Generally, there can be categorized as verbal and non-verbal communication. When we communicate with others by saying words, that is consider a verbal communication. If we show our feeling or message without saying a word but using a gesture or body language, that is so called non-verbal communication. For the topic on today, let us focus on non-verbal communication.
In non-verbal communication, there are many sub categories like body language, body appearance, facial expression and so on. Body language is send through body movement such as emblems, illustrators, affect displays, and many more. All those are the natural respond when you encounter with particular situation. What will you do when you see a huge crocodile in front of you? I think most of us will run as fast as we can without saying a single word. This is considered part of the body languages.
Body appearance is our height, weight, race, and hair color. If you are a tall guy, others may assume that you are a basketball player. Somehow, body appearance does bring some information to others because people can roughly guess about you. Whereas facial expression is something related to feelings. Happiness, surprise, fear, anger, and sadness are all the examples of facial expression. The feeling you show on the face can communicate with others. When you are angry, your face will turn red and others will know that even you did not tell a word.
In conclusion, non-verbal communication plays an important role in our life. It may bring benefits for you, but be careful that it may also destroy your image. Always analyze our own non-verbal communication patterns to ensure that we still able to communicate with the people around cheerfully although in a silent mode.
Posted by Liew Li Hui
Silence
What is silence? According to dictionary, silence is the absence of sound. I guess most of us done this before. We did it without notice almost anytime and anywhere. Why we silence? Have you think about it? Silence do have its own functions in certain circumstances. What are they?
Sometimes we silence because we want to give ourselves a moment to think and prepare for something. Before we spell out a sentence, we need to think and prepare for it. For example, when a boss scolding a staff, he will need to think and prepare the sentence to reduce the harmfulness to the minimum towards the staff. During this second, the boss silence. Silence is also a type of behavior or response to personal anxiety. We will automatically become silence when we are nervous.
This is because noise will make our though become worse, so we need to keep quiet in order to calm down ourselves.
Prevent communication is also one of the functions of silence. For those people you really don’t like to talk with, your silence take place to prevent unnecessary arguments with them especially in front of public. Have you come with the situation that when you tell your friend something but he or she didn’t give you any response? In this situation, your friend may have nothing to comment or say. We do have met this situation before, don’t you?
Sometimes we are not feel like talking. In this condition, why don’t we just silence for a while?
Posted by Liew Li Hui
*wink* ;)
Remember in the previous World Cup when the controversy and rumours of Cristiano Ronaldo of Portugal successfully helped sent off Wayne Rooney of the England squad who also happens to be his then clubmate?
Apparently, C.Ronaldo winked to the bench after the referee shows the red card to Rooney. Many fans and critics speculated that Ronaldo had every intention to reduce the England to ten players and help his team to move on to the next round. If you watch the video, it is towards the middle that you would see it.
The possible meaning behind the winking could probably meant "I did it" or "You are most welcome". Whatever it was, the wink was very ambigous as it can be anything and everything. Therefore, we have to be very careful with our actions and be ready to accept the consequences of our actions. In other words, we must be concious of our body language at all times.
Blogger by,
Mok Lee Ling aka Melanie. =)
Honesty Is Hardly Ever Heard
The song above was released in 1978 and is one of my mum’s favourite songs. So yes, most of you may not even been born yet and you might not recognize the song or the artist.
I can always find someone
to say they sympathize.
If I wear my heart out on my sleeve.
But I don't want some pretty face
to tell me pretty lies.
All I want is someone to believe.
Honesty is such a lonely word.
Everyone is so untrue.
Honesty is hardly ever heard.
And mostly what I need from you.
Communication may not only be express through conversation or body language, it can also be conveying through songs, lyrics and singing. The song is a good example how one person is expressing his opinion on how it is hard to find honesty.
Everyone Has It's Faults
Written by : Nur Afifah Bt Noor Azlan
Saturday, October 3, 2009
STARE INTO ME EYES !!
So anyway, I was thinking. The mooncakes these look real small. Small as in TINY. My dad brought home one just now. I was just staring at it, mystified by the size and shape as well as the precise decoration on it. It is small enough to just eat it whole in one bite.
As I continue to stare at it, my mum was looking at me. We made eye contact for a moment and laughed out loud. She just knew my all too well. I wanted to eat it but I can't. It was my dad's mooncake. Haha. :)
So yeah. Eye contact says alot. It is such an important non-verbal communication. It CANNOT lie. Therefore, next time when you suspect someone is lying to you, STARE at his/her eyes. They will tell you the answer you need and want to know.
Tata for now..
Mok Lee Ling aka Melanie the me(L)anie. Hehe. =)